Becoming a mother is a deeply meaningful experience that creates connection and bringing out purpose and care that you didn’t know could exist. It also brings days full of feeding schedules, school runs, and a constant awareness of everyone else’s needs.
While doing so much, it is easy to place yourself slightly to the side, without even realising it.
Feeling like a human again does not mean having to change your life or stepping away from it. It is about gently making space for yourself within it.
Here are some ways for you to reconnect with the woman you already are, with your own preferences, wants, thoughts and needs, alongside the role of being a mom.
1. Get loungewear and pyjamas that make you feel good
What you wear at home affects how you feel more than you might expect. Especially if you are a SAHM or FTM. It does not have to be expensive fabric or from a designer brand. Even a cute set in soft fabrics like bamboo cotton is an upgrade from an old T-shirt and shorts.
It’s not about looking more presentable for anyone else but showing your body that is already doing so much the kindness it deserves.
2. Treat yourself to a day of feeling like a queen
Getting some time to yourself can be rare. A blowout, mani pedi, or short spa visit is a moment where you get to sit still, be cared for and let someone else take the lead for a while.
Give yourself permission to enjoy being looked after, to feel refreshed in your own skin and to remember that you are allowed to take up space without needing a reason or special occasion.
Even a few hours set aside as a me day can leave you feeling more like yourself again.
3. Take long, unrushed showers
A long shower without a little one waiting for you on the other side of the door can feel like a luxury. Have a little spa day at home. Use the expensive soaps. Apply the creams you have been saving. Let the water run a little longer.
These small sensory moments can help you reconnect with your body when most of your day is spent focused outward.
4. Go for walks with no purpose
Take some time to go for walks and let your body move with no agenda in mind. Getting out of the house can help your nervous system settle and gives your mind room to wander.
Going on a short walk around the block can make you feel less enclosed by routine and responsibility as you breathe in fresh air. Not only is it good for your mind, but it is also good for your body too.
5. Pick up a long-lost hobby
Think about something you enjoyed doing before motherhood. It could be reading a novel, listening to music (with lyrics that don’t rhyme), baking for pleasure, or watching a show without multitasking.
Just spending 10 minutes of doing a hobby can remind you that you existed before this role and that part of you still matters.
6. Sit down and have a meal properly
Many moms are familiar with eating while standing up, sharing bites, or finishing leftovers. Sitting down to eat a meal without interruption can feel like reclaiming a part of yourself.
Choose a dish you enjoy, sit, and slowly finish it while it is still warm. And don’t forget to let someone be responsible for washing up!
7. Let someone else hold the mental load for a moment
Help is not just about chores. It is also about letting someone else make decisions for a while. Let them plan dinner. Let them organise the outing. Let them remember the details.
Mental rest is still rest. You do not have to carry everything all the time.
8. Talk honestly about how you are feeling
Feeling disconnected from yourself can be isolating. Saying it out loud often brings relief. Whether it is to another mom, a trusted friend, or a space where you can be honest without needing to sound grateful or composed.
You are allowed to name how hard it feels.
If you are looking for a safe space, Supermom is here for you. Join our community groups and connect with moms who are walking through this season with you.
Reconnecting with Yourself, One Step at a Time
Motherhood does not erase who you are. It can blur the edges, especially in seasons of exhaustion. Feeling like a human again often begins with noticing yourself and responding with care, one small choice at a time.
