We mostly hear about the 5 love languages used in a romantic context. And what is more romantic than Valentine’s Day?
It is often framed around romantic love with flowers, cards and carefully planned dinners. While romantic gestures often come to mind, it is also an opportunity for us to celebrate one of the most enduring forms of love.
The love of motherhood.
Moms give in countless ways, often quietly and without expectation. While appreciation should never be limited to one day, the month of February offers a moment to pause and reflect on how we show love to the moms in our lives through the 5 love languages.
Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation
For many moms, words carry deep meaning. A simple thank you can go a long way, especially when it is specific and heartfelt.
Take time to acknowledge what often goes unseen. Thank her for the emotional labour she carries, the decisions she makes daily, or the ways she shows up even when she is tired. A handwritten note, a thoughtful message, or even a sincere conversation can remind her that her efforts are recognised and valued.
For moms who rarely hear appreciation out loud, words can be a powerful form of love.
Love Language 2: Acts of Service
Motherhood is often defined by doing. Cooking, organising, planning, and anticipating everyone else’s needs can feel endless.
Acts of service offer love through action. This could mean taking over household chores without being asked, bringing her water while she is breastfeeding, or creating space for her to rest. It is not about grand gestures, but about easing her mental and physical load.
Love Language 3: Receiving Gifts
While a designer bag can be a nice surprise, gifts do not have to be expensive for them to be meaningful. They are about thoughtfulness.
A good gift reflects understanding. It might be something that supports her wellbeing, encourages rest, or aligns with her interests beyond motherhood. Even small, intentional gifts can communicate care when they show that her preferences are seen and known.
This Valentine’s Day, treat a mom you know to an afternoon of pampering with complimentary beauty sessions worth $3,499.
Love Language 4: Quality Time
One thing most moms would agree on is wanting more time. Especially when days are filled with multi-tasking and the list of house chores seem never-ending.
Making the effort to arrange childcare for an evening and planning a date sends a powerful message. It shows that she is still worth the thought and care. A date does not need to be extravagant. A simple dinner at a favourite hawker centre, enjoyed without phones, can feel just as special.
Being fully present sends a clear message: You matter, and I see you.
Love Language 5: Physical Touch
Physical touch can be grounding and reassuring. For some moms, simple gestures like a hug, holding hands while she is pumping or while the two of you are watching TV, or a reassuring touch on the shoulder provide comfort and connection.
Motherhood can be physically demanding, and touch is often given more than it is received. Offering affectionate, respectful touch can help restore a sense of closeness and care.
Celebrating Mothers with Intention
Motherhood is shaped by seasons, needs, and constant change. Feeling seen and supported can make a profound difference, especially during moments of uncertainty or transition. The five love languages is a reminder that love is not one size fits all; what feels meaningful to one mother may feel secondary to another.
Make the conscious effort to understand what she needs in this season of her life.
If you are navigating motherhood and looking for guidance that meets you where you are, Aima is here to help. From personalised insights to everyday questions, Aima offers support that understands the realities of modern motherhood.
