Too Many Opinions, Not Enough Sleep: A Mom’s Guide to Keeping Your Cool
Those first few weeks are wild. Sleep is optional, emotions are everywhere, and suddenly you’re expected to be a baby whisperer. So when someone questions your choices, it hits differently. You’re not dramatic; you’re just running on love and low battery.
Why It Feels So Overwhelming
Those first few weeks after giving birth can be an emotional rollercoaster. You’re exhausted, your hormones are still finding their balance, and you’re learning how to care for a newborn while trying to stay sane yourself. It’s a lot.
So when someone throws in a “helpful” suggestion or questions your choices, it can sting. Even the gentlest comment can sound like criticism when you’re already stretched thin. It’s okay to feel frustrated or hurt—you’re not overreacting. You’re simply navigating one of the most intense transitions in your life.
The Usual Offenders (You Might Have Heard These Before)
You’ve probably heard a few of these before:
- “You should breastfeed longer.”
- “You’re carrying the baby too much.”
- “We never needed all these fancy gadgets.”
- “You look tired. Are you coping?”
They may come from love, but that doesn’t make them easier to hear. Each remark can chip away at your confidence a little, especially when you’re already questioning if you’re doing things right.
Recognising that is the first step toward letting them roll off your back.
Supermom Moves to Keep Your Cool
1. Take a Moment Before You Respond
Not every comment needs an answer. Sometimes, it helps to take a deep breath or just smile politely. Giving yourself that moment can stop the irritation from spilling out and keep things peaceful.
2. Set Gentle Boundaries
- “Thanks for the suggestion, but we’ve found what works for us.”
- “I appreciate your concern, though we’re happy with our routine.”
- “That’s interesting, I’ll think about it.”
These phrases keep the tone light while gently showing that you’re in charge of your decisions.
3. Filter Like a Pro
There’s plenty of advice floating around, and not all of it is bad. Some might even be useful. The trick is learning to tell the difference. If something doesn’t sit right with you, it’s perfectly fine to let it go.
When you’re unsure, lean on people who matter—your partner, your paediatrician, or a mom friend you trust. They know your journey better than strangers or relatives passing by.
4. Find Your Village
Motherhood’s a team sport—and your “village” keeps you sane. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, make you laugh, and remind you that you’re doing just fine. 💡 Mom Hack: Join Supermom’s online village to swap stories, ask questions, or just vent safely with other mums who get it.
Finding Your Own Voice Again
Every mom’s story is different, and that’s what makes motherhood so personal. Celebrate the small wins–like when your baby finally naps longer than 20 minutes, getting a warm meal, or remembering where you put the pacifier.
Slowly, the noise fades, and you’ll start hearing your own instincts again. And trust us, they’re usually spot on.
There’s no single “right” way to parent. There’s only what works for you and your baby, and that’s enough.
